Saying that to her on an equally public platform is equally lame. She could have sent her a private message if she’s such a great friend instead of potentially embarrassing her. I know, she started the ball rolling on embarrassing herself with her updates, but come on. Alissa’s kind of a bitch.
@Jules – you’re probably right. If Alissa was trying to do the right thing, she would have sent that message over a more intimate means of communication. But who says Alissa was trying to do the right thing? Maybe Alissa just couldn’t take the self-thrown pity party anymore and snapped. I think that’s more forgivable than 2+ day public display of patheticness. Remember, it’s Jennifer that’s on lamebook, not Alissa.
I can’t stand people like Jennifer. If she was truly hurting she’d be curled up in a ball by herself too hurt to let the world know just how terrible she was doing. Jenifer is the type of girl that lives and dies with every moment of her life, has fallen in love with every man/woman/child she’s had a relationship with and has probably acquired a dozen or more future husbands. This is nothing more than a mild case of gas to someone like Jennifer. It may actually hurt for the second but the second it’s gone it’ll be like it was never there. Fake person.
Thank you Alissa for saying what crosses my mind nearly every time I sign in to my honmepage!!
In terms of “should she have sent it through private mail” yeah sure if it had been something lingering on her mind for a long time. As it is, I rather imagine it was an immediate kneejerk reaction to reading yet another whingy status update.
@ pb and Konfuscious: absolutely. She should do all of those things, for as long as it takes. And she should remember to stick to a theme of ‘I’m a worthless nobody without you/ what can I do to make you come back/ if you meet someone else, I’ll kill myself’.
Jennifer embarassed herself. This is ONE example – for all we know Jennifer poss whiny shit like this every day.
Obviously she was looking for some kind of reaction otherwise she wouldn’t have publicly cried for attention.
Who wants to wager that “alissa is a pathetic twat” is Jennifer?
I fail to see why Alissa’s “pathetic” in any way at all. I think she had the balls to say what was needed to be said. Sure, you can be sympathetic to Jennifer’s situation but srsly, she needed a good kick. It’s unattractive and attention-seeking, the way Jennifer was going about things. Bo-ring.
Alissa is being more of a friend than whoever else is just sitting there, silently rolling their eyes. Since Jennifer seems to only understand the fine art of publicly airing one’s feelings on facebook, it’s probably the only way to get through to her and crash the pity party.
Why would I comfort someone on their Facebook wall? That’s ridiculous. Any emotional exchanges I have with my friends happen in person or over the phone, NOT out there for the world to see. Jennifer is putting her personal business out there for the world to see … sounds like an attention whore rather than someone who actually wants comfort.
@Brooke, I think what Mags is saying is that real life comfort is more effective and personal than “LOL S GON BE OK HUN” on Facebook, particularly when the comfortee seems to be little more than a frownwhore who dines out on showing the whole world how miserable she is. Any sort of comforting shown would probably be met with ‘NO IM SAD WAAH GUDBY CRUL WRLD’.
To all the children and teenage girls here – Alissa told it like it is. I dunno how many friends I lost because they acted like Jennifer and then took it to the extreme, and then when I told them the cold reality of it they snapped on me and said I was a bad person. No, people like that and Jennifer are just babies who refuse to grow the fuck up and insist on dragging everyone down with them. Real friends tell you how it is. Only fake friends tell you what you want to hear. To all the kids and even slightly to the admin of this site for the sarcastic title to this entry…Alissa had it right, so grow the fuck up if you don’t agree.
There’s nothing wrong with what Alissa said. She’s just making fairly obvious points. Unfortunately I don’t think Jennifer is mentally advanced enough for that kind of reasoning, nor does she want to hear anything truthful. Too fragile.
There are a few chicks like this on my facebook and I just ignore them. You never know what might tip them over the edge!
@”Alissa is a pathetic twat”- I agree that Alissa probably should have said what she did in a more private message. That said, she was still completely right, and the best friend Jennifer could have asked for by letting Jennifer know she was only embarrassing herself in posting the whiny, ridiculous updates.
Easy there, not all females r crazy,I think Jennifer shoulda thought about it before she aired her dirty laundry in public BUT if I was avin one of those days I would hope my mates would refrain from humiliating me further than I had already done.
PS ur a total dick, n u wouldnt know freaky if it slapped u in the face, enjoy ur virginity, u will be together for a long time!
*The only reason i am commenting this is because i heard about it and was really really really annoyed.
i think that amanda is a cunt for posting this and way out of line. yes jenn shouldn’t be posting her life story on facebook (cause clearly that’s what twitter is for~) but seriously, it was for her friends to see. IF AMANDA DOESN’T LIKE IT then she should simply delete jenn. SO SHOULD ALISSA. that simple. I actually know jenn and know what all these status’s are about and yeah they’re stupid but it’s her facebook for a fucking reason. get a grip. no one on this is better than anyone else. so chill and stop publicly putting people down because they have moments of weakness and post dumb shit on facebook. who gives a fuck? get a life and go do something. sounds a lot better than worrying about people’s status’s….
I don’t think that Alissa was cold at all. Why should she patronise her friend? She did look pathetic. I wish I had the courage to tell my friends to STFU, some of their status updates are just as annoying.
I think Alissa put it very politely.
Me, I’d have said something like “Gotta make my FB newsfeed Emo-proof PRONTO, I’m kicking your whiny ass out of my friends list.”
Or just “Bitch, please.”
Less is more, sometimes