I can’t stand people like #4. If you are too poor, then you have a pot-luck type reception with select friends making food. You don’t force your guests to pay for a night out to your reception. Tacky. I thought a cash bar was tacky but wow…
A (not close) friend of mine had a reception at a restaurant where people had to pay for their own meal, a set price, I think $50/person. Well about 12 out of 75 people invited actually went. I did not, I went out to eat at a nice place where I did not have to buy my dress beforehand. This type of thing is a huge pet peeve of mine.
Poor is no excuse for not finding a better option.
I’m betting #4 had people color coordinate with expensive David’s Bridal bridesmaid dresses, registered at *insert expensively lame store here* for gifts, but will go to Golden Corral for reception. What happened to quaint backyard affairs? A few friends and family, and boom! Same difference in the end.
Agree. Cash bar is already lame, this one takes the cake!! asking guests to pay to attend their wedding reception is tacky. If you can’t afford it, don’t invite so many people (judging by the public status mssg, it aims at large number of folks).
Are there people who abuse the welfare system? Hell yes. Doest hat mean EVERYBODY that is on welfare abuse it? NO. Unfourtanetly not enough information was given for us to properly judge if this was a legit gripe or not….. I do know that as a child we were poor as hell and I was always sooooo embaressed that my mom got welfare, and it’s people like Brandy that inspires those feelings.
And the wedding thing is pretty lame. How about a back yard bar-b-que or something? My bother and sister in law, who are by no means poor, had one and it was a lot of fun. Also, I know someone getting married by summer who are having a pot luck reception, I thought that was pretty lame until I found out that they are requesting that and the recipe of whatever food you bring as gifts, they put on the invite that they wanted NO other gifts, and if people insisted on buying gifts to please buy something sensible or non-pershible foods because everything will be donated to the Salvation Army. So that canceled out the lameness.
The Golden Corral reception is so white trash awesome, I would totally go, just to say I had been there!
I agree with the backyard BBQ folks, though. The BEST wedding I ever attended was held in the backyard of an older sister (where incidentally the co-ed “bachelor” party had been held the night before), with potluck crock pots food and kegs of Oly, and dancing to a stereo CD system set up outside. 15 years later, it still beats all.
@slimjayz – Yeah, she was talking about a wedding reception she had been invited to that was $50 a plate, she never said the Golden Corral place was $50 a plate.
…And, I have no idea what it is like to be poor. Is that my fault? I hate people that put other people down because of things they have no control over. I can not pick to be born into a poor family anymore than I could pick to not be Italian. You are born to what you are born to, their is no choice involved. That does not make me any less than some one who WAS born into a poor family, just because I do not have the same experience set as they do.
Brandy is the kind of person who believes the working poor should be limited to one pound of moldy government cheese and a swift kick in the nutsack once a week, and even that should only be provided by private charities (that she doesn’t contribute to). Fuck this “good of society” nonsense…the poor should be punished for having the nerve to be poor.
But thats the point… you see people that have expectations and judge people without knowing what its like to be in their situation… Often times when people are golden coral wedding poor it is that their families are poor or they have no support from families
Its also about priorities… you have heating bills, clothes for kids, food, rent/mortgage and all that fun stuff… having some stuck up bitch at your wedding reception kind of isnt as important
And I never said anyone was less than someone who was born poor… just that people who judge the poor on their own standards are often failing to understand what its like to truly be poor… i’m talking free lunch, winters with shitty coats that dont keep you warm, being a ghost for ever damn halloween because a sheet was all your parents could afford, hand-me-downs and thrift stores are new clothes to you type poor… golden coral was like a banquet for kings and queens when I was a kid (In my hometown it was bananza, but same type of restaurant)
Slim, I grew up working class, was disowned by my family for going to college, put myself through college, and currently I earn a good income and enjoy the finer things. I HAVE also put together a wedding for $1000 that did not force what little friends I had left (because former friends disowned me too…it was a religion thing) to pay for their own meal. The plan was to cook and prepare all the food. I left my fiancé before the wedding actually happened (because he punched me).
So, there you go.
Forcing people to pay is tacky, poor or not poor. Assuming it’s what poor people do…well THAT is judgmental.
We were poor when I got married. All told our wedding cost less about $600, and that included my tux rental, the church rental, some trays of Italian beef and a nice three tier cake. Everything else family got together and cooked the day of at the three story brownstone where her family lived (one family group on each floor) that was half a block from the church which is also where we held the reception. Her mom and sister decorated the church, a friend was the filmographer, etc.
Honestly, it’s one of the funnest weddings I’ve ever been to-no long line at a buffet or waiting for servers to come around with food, music and dancing the whole night, no assigned seats next to some fifth cousin you haven’t met since you were two, etc. Given the choice between that and the stress and hell of a “normal” wedding (which we got to experience last year when we did my daughter’s Quinceañera, which involved a church ceremony, rented hall, catered food, DJ, expensive dresses and jewelry-basically a wedding without rings), I’ll take the “cheap” route every time.
The potluck reception is quite possibly the coolest idea I’ve seen in a long while. I wish I’d thought of something like that when my wife and I got married. I’d have a lot fewer stupid picture frames around the house today…
@ 33 – Golden Coral is an inexpensive buffet-style restaurant. Serves about anything. Oh yeah, and it’s all-you-can-eat. Lots of…um…big eaters, there. Good people watching every time! And the kiddos looove the “dessert bar”.
@ 39 – Super Bowl Food would be food you serve at a Super Bowl Party. Chips, dip, pizza, chicken wings. Basically anything that goes good with cheap beer.
rich, poor, nerdy, popular, hater, lover, .. whatever extremes in life you’ve experienced, you can bet there will be balance for you before its over. Life has a way of letting you experience it all – both sides. so be careful of who you trash when you are on the other side. you may find yourself there before its said and done.
@msjessiemeghan, exactly HOW did you “put yourself through college” : is that the REAL reason your fam disowned you? WHY did your fiance’ hit you exactly…. gosh, it sounds like the whole world is against you and nothing is EVER your fault, poor thing
@julestastic, the world isn’t against me, I just didn’t have a supportive family. And yes…college was the reason, for the most part…girls wernt allowed to go to college, I disagreed, I went, and also left their religion. I don’t need nor do I want your pity, because I am doing quite well thankyouverymuch. Other than your implying I deserved to be physically abused by a boyfriend…you seem like a lovely person yourself. I hope the world balances out for you too…
It is so complicated. Their religion doesn’t have a “rule” but rather an unspoken one, up until about 10 years ago when I graduated from high school. As far as I know, now college is ok but generally looked down on for anyone. My parents are Jehovahs Witnesses. They are generally good people, just trying to live in the 1950′s, and they are more or less strict depending on the area. Like I said, there was never a set “rule” but it is the unwritten rules that can be the most binding.
There are many religions that feel the place for a woman is at home taking care of her family. A lot of the stricter Christian religions in the U.S. do not permit any schooling as public schools teach evolution in most places and they are Creationists.