I hate when people use the kid leash. How can you teach a child anything when you just put them on a leash and do not teach them the essentials of not running into traffic, or through stores, or into lion cages. Kid’s today are all jacked up, and I think these child leashes are partly to blame.
How did the person in 1 not notice their junk hanging out?
@wanttomakeout: Most people under 50 are all jacked up, so I was a little exclusive in my comment. But I bet that leash does have a lot to do with the issues. It comes from parenting that involves “babysitters” T. V., leashes, cold syrup to put the children to bed . . .
The old nonsense that kids are all screwed up because they’re being babysat by the TV is outdated. These days, kids are being screwed up far more by overly attentive helicopter parents that won’t let them do anything for themselves and won’t let them see or do anything that might damage their innocent little minds. My generation was raised by Saturday morning cartoons…today’s generation is being raised by constantly over-vigilant parents and the pharmaceutical industry.
Having said that, the leash thing isn’t that big of a deal. I had a leash until I was 15, and other than the occasional overwhelming desire to pee on fire hydrants and shit on my neighbor’s lawn, I turned out just fine.
@Sensible: I forgot about the medicines they put kids on these days, anti-depressants at 10 and what not. I am not saying TV is a bad thing, just shouldn’t be used to replace other forms of entertainment such as coloring, blocks and whatever. But really, using a leash is being a sheltering parent as well as a lazy one, that is the point of my statement. If you keep your child on a leash they don’t understand that when the leash is off they are responsible for their actions, it doesn’t teach them to look both ways when they cross the street, or to stay near their parents so they don’t get kidnapped by a random molester. They have to learn how to operate in the world without a damn leash. And if they don’t do that when they are little, they never really grasp it. Bah.
“I hate when people use the kid leash. How can you teach a child anything when you just put them on a leash and do not teach them the essentials of not running into traffic, or through stores, or into lion cages. Kid’s today are all jacked up, and I think these child leashes are partly to blame.”
First of all, they are called safety harnesses, not leashes.
Second of all, they are not meant to replace teaching a child not to run off. They are a useful tool to use WHILE teaching your children the importance of staying close to mum or dad.
Obviously you need to teach your children this, but while they are young and still learning, they will undoubtedly have slip-ups. The harness is simply a back-up tool.
And of course, there are people who ruin it for those who do use it properly and use it out of sheer laziness. It seems as though the woman in this picture is one of them. But generally those who do that are few and far between compared to those who use it properly.
Also, there are some kids who actually need them because they just don’t understand and it takes longer than most kids to teach because of underlying disabilities. I know many mums of Autistic kids that resort to a harness because their child just doesn’t grasp the concept of ‘stay close to mum’. And most of them, you can’t tell just by looking at them that they have Autism.
I also have witnessed just how useful a harness can be.
While waiting in a line-up at a crowded fair, there was a little girl about 5 feet ahead of me, standing beside her mother, holding her mother’s hand and wearing a piglet backpack.
All of a sudden, a man ran through the line up, grabbed the little girl and attempted to take off with her. I say attempted because the piglet backpack was actually a harness and the mother had the other end attached to her own back pack.
Had she not been wearing that piglet harness, she may very well have been snatched, just like that.
Having said all that, I guess I should say that, for the record.. I don’t use a harness… yet. If it comes down to my 13 month old getting any more curious than she already is, I may get one for her.
I do agree though, that many parents now are resorting to the ‘helicopter parenting’ and it’s just not a good method, imo.
Over sheltering your child, in most cases ends up being very counter-productive.
Charlene. You need to go and have a lie down. And what a pathetic made up name! You had the chance and you blew it! You could’ve been called “I love kids” or “I am righteous” but no, you had to go for Charlene. Are you off Neighbours?
That photo is taken at Epcot. It’s a crowded theme park. I’d rather see a parent with their kid on a “leash” than the parents I have seen @ Disneyland in a panic because they can’t find their kid in the crowd.
I don’t need a lie down. I just don’t like when people, who likely don’t have kids, go on about other people’s parenting. As if they are experts. I’m not upset by it at all though, just trying to shed some light on the other side of the coin is all.
And Charlene is my actual name unfortunately.
What’s neighbours?? I’ve actually been registered here for a bit, but I usually just lurk.
Although.. I guess I could have been a little more creative with my Username.
Charlene, remember before you were a parent and you watched other people parent and judged them? Then you became a parent and realized you were being a twit before? It’s just the natural cycle of life. You can’t get upset at people for something they can not yet fathom. One day, they’ll know!
Not to distract from the interesting direction these threads are headed BUT the first picture is on purpose. I read about it on the internet. People take seemingly innocent pictures where they accidentally show their junk. There was a famous (infamous?) one of the shiny tea kettle on ebay.
Now you have read about it on the internet too, so it MUST be true.
In the one with the leash, that’s in Disney World. There are SO MANY kids on leashes in Disney World. I think it kind of makes sense though because, especially when it’s busy, it’s nearly impossible to keep your eyes on a kid that young. That being said, I would never bring a kid to Disney World that couldn’t stay near me or handle himself if he got lost. It’s bad parenting.
@Pseudonym, she has just as much of a right to express her opinion as you do. Let her be.
Anyway, I’ve been on anti-depressants since I was 5 and I don’t think they messed me up at all. If anything, they really helped me out. However, my overbearing parents practically have me in chains. They made me so dependent on them that I don’t know how to do anything for myself and am actually afraid of responsibility and the unknown world of being on my own. They’re so conservative and sheltered me so much that everything I do is to keep from disappointing them. I don’t know how to write a check, I’m not allowed to curse, and every time I try to have sex I end up having a panic attack and crying because I can’t get the image of their disappointed faces out of my head. This is what happens when you have extremely overbearing parents. They shelter you from the real world and you never learn to live for yourself.
Excruciasm – that part about your eternally disappointed parents and your sex life really explains your user name.
But seriously though, how does a 5 year old even get depressed enough to need medication? When I was five, I was playing with faux spy gadgets and beating my little brother with sticks I had pried off of our wooden porch. Ahhh, childhood. It makes a little more sense as you get older. The crippling weight of adult responsibility is sometimes too much to bear…and I’m a self-sufficient 20-something.
Hey, it’s cool though. A little co-dependence never hurt anyone.
Whatever the case, the leash is not working out for the little girl or the mom, she should be in a stroller. She’s way too little to walk far anyway, which may be why she’s laying on the ground at Epcot.
Actually, I’m going to have to agree, somewhat, with Charlotte.
The 2 year old in our family is fantastically smart and well behaved, but when traveling in a crowded airport, festival, etc, is on the harness for safety.
The Man and I actually DID witness a situation at a downtown festival where 2 parents were walking through the crowd with their kids, each adult with one kid by hand.
A bum walked quickly up behind the mom, grabbed the other hand of her 3-4 year old girl, pulled her away, and started walking off with her!
Mom was stunned and froze for a moment, and both The Man and I jumped up to run after the creep (and probably attempt to beat him to death with our bare hands – I’m shaking now as I type this).
The bum then let go of the kid’s hand, and kept walking, leaving the little girl in the middle of a crowd. Thankfully, she was immediately reunited with mom. It could have turned many different ways, none of them good.
Moral of this long story – I think it’s better to have the kid on a safety harness in potentially dangerous crowd situation, than to risk a kidnapping or death.
It’s probably overused (like those stupid ADD medications) by lazy parents, but definitely has a place.
I like how a bunch of people got all up in arms about the fat chick earlier, but it’s fine to make fun of the gay blob on the couch.
who cares if someone puts their kids on a leash? What else are you supposed to do, put them in the car with the window cracked? I tried that once. It didn’t turn out well, but at least I have one less mouth to feed.
it’s a “monkey on their back” child harness. the doll (or spare head) people keep mentioning belongs to a backpack/harness thing that is fashioned to look like a monkey and has a clip on rope/leash which the mother is holding. I had one of these for my little dude, he’d carry his extra diaper and some wipes in it so he felt like he was “helping” we only attached the leash part in large crowds or dangerous situations (like the grand canyon).
seriously, when used right, I see no problem. also, I know they can be very helpful with developmentally disabled children. as for the obvious bad parents who use it as a way to not have to “watch” their children, those kids most likely have more problems to worry about then a leash.
is it really the norm to hang out around your house with no pants or underwear on? I mean, I like to get comfortable when I get done with work but I just put some jammie pants on or something. Maybe I’m just ultra conservative…is that normal?
I’m impressed at how quickly you figured out what my username means. Win for you.
I wasn’t actually depressed at 5 years old, but I was showing signs of bipolar disorder. I was the outcast, and the teachers didn’t like that I ran to the bathroom and cried all the time. I guess they didn’t understand that kids are assholes and I practically had a giant target on my forehead. I actually got in a lot of trouble for just crying; went to the principal’s office every time. So the school told my parents that I was a messed up kid and that’s how it all got started.
I believe the animal in pic 1 is a shaved pussy taking a picture of a cat with no hair. :p
I wonder what Becky’s name was before the sex change. You know, like how Tom becomes Tammy, or Chasity became Chaz… Becky doesn’t really have a male counterpart, but there’s no way that was a chick at birth…
Plus it’s hard when you’re taking your 4 year old cousin out for a day and you’re not the one responsible for teaching him not to run off and almost get hit by a car, which is what happened to me once.
There is little else on this earth that is emotionally debasing as not being able to control your own bowels and relying on the assistance of others to wipe your ass. If billions of people can resolve that they could not do this for themselves when they were toddlers without major psychological impacts, I am fairly certain that they will not need years of therapy to adjust to the fact that their parents put them in a safey harness when they were the same age.
I swear that’s a man in a bikini in the third picture (in the foreground). And, in the first one, is that a man or woman? I can’t tell because it’s blurred out – a man, right?
They were all pretty good. Well done, Lamebook.
To all concerned, responsible, Christian, (soon to be) soccer mums. Yes, I’m looking at you Charlene and Natasha Lynn. Please return to the Farmville Townhall forum. It’s much safer for you there, really.
If not for your own safety, then at least do it for the children. The children!
Anti-depressants didn’t do that to me, my parents did. Anti-depressants are used to settle down my anxiety, lift me up out of my depression, and smooth out the rough edges in my emotions. They would never have caused something like that. My parents are the ones who destroyed my sex life, not my medication.
Whatever you say, Excruciasm. But surely popping anti-depressants since you were 5 might have something to do with it as well. I mean, these pill are designed to mess with your head, surely you must have considered yourself that they might therefore also interfere with your sex life.
Anyway, enough already. I really don’t want to be thinking about your dysfunctional sex life. Good luck with solving these issues, though. Maybe you can try bringing up the image of thequeen and her bukkake tsunami. Some people here get off on that.
God, no. thequeen is my roommate. In real life. I mean she’s cute but I’m not into girls or bukakke.
Back to serious business, without anti-depressants, I would be a wreck right now. Just because you don’t believe in medications working doesn’t mean I don’t. And I wasn’t really talking about my sex life, I was talking about my emotional state in general. You brought it up.
Yes, I’m roommates with her. It’s just a regular apartment. We go to the same college. Nothing special about it. And don’t call her that – she has a problem and needs help.
Thank you for believing me. I respect your opinion on pharmaceuticals, whatever it is. Sometimes I wonder just what I would be like today if I never participated in therapy. I wonder if I would even be functional if I had never taken the medication. How different would my childhood have been? My teens? Would I have even reached adulthood?
Being on medication for all these years has had its side effects. Weight-gain, upset stomach, little things. But the biggest thing was the feeling of being numb. At first it was great! I didn’t cry anymore, so kids didn’t have much to make fun of and teachers didn’t have anything to punish me for. But over the years, I realized that I couldn’t really laugh either. I didn’t feel much of anything. I don’t remember much of my childhood or teens because, emotionally, nothing could make enough of an impact to be committed to my memory. Not until I stopped taking them.
I stopped taking them for an entire year. At first I was okay, thinking maybe this would work, and I wouldn’t have to rely on drugs ever again. Then, one by one, all the symptoms came back. I was having panic attacks, deep depressions, manic episodes, abandonment complexes, and periods of self-destruction. Every day, I watched myself sink, but I still didn’t take the pills. My emotions were out of control. My friends were concerned about me to the point where they made excuses to stay with me, and make sure I was never left alone. Finally, I snapped completely. Long story short: suicide attempt, institutionalized, recovered.
So to answer your question, yes. For some, long-term use of anti-depressants can have unhealthy side-effects. But if a person really needs them, in my opinion, they should take them, because anti-depressants can save their lives.
Well, as long as the side-effect of not taking the pills is “death”, then by all means keep taking them.
Say, are you always as open and forthcoming on internet fora? Or only the nasty ones such as Lamebook, which primary attraction is “people making fun of other people’s problems”? I mean, you make yourself very vulnerable to the public scrutiny that goes on here. While I respect and even admire that in one way, it also worries me a little. Especially since you seem to be a very nice and likable person.
I am always this open and forthcoming anywhere on the internet because it’s anonymous – no one knows who I am. If my story is needed to prove a point somewhere, then what’s the harm in telling it? What have I got to lose? The stuff on here is just words on a screen. Although they can hurt some people, like my dear roommate, they can’t hurt me any more than the real world can.
Thank you for your concern, and I appreciate your kindness. You also seem nice and likeable. But please don’t worry about me. I’m not hurting now.
Always fun to read about the instant paranoia people get as soon as the become parents.
‘The leash is a handy tool’ etc. etc. It’s a sad day when parents can’t control their own kids and need to leash them like a common dog. But then again, that was why you got the child wasn’t it? I WANT A KID, IT’S CUTE!… For you, there is no difference if it is a kid or a damn chihuahua, the thing is you treat them the same way.
You’re sad excuses of parents and should have to suffer the humiliation of being forced to wear a leash yourself.
@HeSwingsHeMisses do toddlers know the concept of humiliation..?
what did your parents do to create a self righteous prick. you think you possess some deep insight into what it is to be a parent. guess what buddy.. you don’t.
you know what the best thing about being a parent is..? it’s getting to choose your own way to do it.
I don’t think these leash wielding parents are too concerned with some virgin gamers idea of good parenting..
@Titsonabull Did you miss the commont of someone wearing it until they turned 15? Anyhow, call me self righteous if you want, I couldn’t care less.
I respect that you feel it’s the best way to raise your children, by treating them like common dogs. Who am I to judge really, that you decided to bring devil spawn into this world instead of just getting that damn dog. Or did you have a dog, but the SPCA took it away from you? So you thought, you’d get a child and leash that instead?
But I’m glad that you get to chose, let’s see how your kid is going to fare in a world where he/she has been sheltered by overprotecting parents.
I was going to respond to you using logic and intelligence, but the very fact that you took the 15 year old comment seriously means I would obviously be wasting my time.
Just for kicks though…you are aware that humans CREATED leashes, right? They don’t grow out of a dog’s neck? And humans created leashed to protect their dogs? Because you can *teach* a puppy not to run in the road, but not every dog gets it right away (or ever), and the result is death? Being stolen? Getting lost? Injured?
Would you have a problem with a leash if they were never used on dogs and ONLY on humans? And if you would, you do realize that’s a personal problem, right? No one’s issue but your own?
I don’t know how you people grew up, but my parents would simply take my hand when we got close to a dangerous crossroad or in a very crowded situation. I don’t understand why you’d need to get a leash involved. And those are some of my fondest early-childhood memories. Feeling the safety and the warmth of my father’s or mother’s hand, guiding me through a busy street.
Of course it’s difficult for me to try and feel, in hindsight, how the experience would have been if they’d leashed me like a dog instead. But I’m guessing I wouldn’t have like it very much. Actually, the thought alone creeps me out.
To be fair, I can imagine there are some situations when leashing your children would come in handy:
1) If your toddler has just learned to run, and you’re visiting Shanghai.
2) If you have triplets, quadruplets, quintuplets, sextuplets, etc.
3) If you are a crack whore mum and you need to keep your hands free for business.
But other than that, these bloody things should be banned.
Here I was eight months pregnant, grocery shopping with my 1 1/2 year old son. I let him out to the cart because we are going to enter the restroom when all of a sudden he takes off running. I seriously run the entire length of the store, while being very, very pregnant, trying to catch my son. No one would even help me. They just watched him run by. Luckily I caught up with him and after that I definitely bought a harness for my child.
Many of you stupid people say that we “lazy” parents should not use the harness and teach our kids better. Really? I guess I should have let him get away and hope to train the next child better?
It’s not like it’s wrapped around their necks. They are designed similar to a backpack, but they strap around the waist.
When I was a child I watched my three yr old brother run out into traffic and get ran over. My parents were very strict and cautious people, but I guess they should have trained him better.
Most parents who buy these harnesses are buying them because they love their child enough to not want them harmed. And I guarantee that the same people who are complaining about this are quick to tie a leash around their dogs neck. How traumatic is that?
@excruciasm, yeah for you for telling your story and living your life,Go you!
I signed up to tell excruciasm, that and to say you guys crack me up .
Child harnesses are a parents choice and there are many reasons besides, lazy parenting/crappy parents to use them, I am guessing more lazy parents don’t buy or use them, then do.