Uh, have either of these guys actually been in a relationship? “You can do whatever you want with them whenever”!?! Is that their understanding of relationships, and is that something to which they aspire?
No David, your ex abandoned you because she found the idea of spending her Sundays in worship far more thrilling, exciting, compelling, etc., than spending any amount of time with YOU. As ‘fterklang said, you should think about getting a job so you can afford a mail order bride (and the rest of ‘fterklang’s comment is a total WIN).
@Boz: The sad thing is that there are many, many girls who seem to actively seek out this sort of disrespectful guy.
I think that’s what some guys tell themselves in order to explain why they can’t get a date. They decide that they must be too “nice”. But I’ve never met a woman who actively seeks out a jerk–even those who have a thing for bikers and parolees want to be treated well. Any woman who ends up in a relationship with a total asshole pretty much got stuck there because he seemed so great at first…just like no man starts out looking for a nagging bitch or a gold-digger.
Well, you might be right, but I don’t think so. I think women (subconsciously) seek out men with certain qualities that make sense from a biological point of view. It just so happens that these qualities (self-confidence, alpha male gibberish) more or less describe an asshole.
I think men do the same thing, by the way, but with different qualities, and more consciously than sub.
Of course we can all beat evolution and our programming, but sometimes it’s a real effort.