Whatever. Fuck Jessica! Stop using Facebook status updates for quick sympathy points you selfish bitch. If he died yesterday you should have been with his family planning the funeral, not updating your Facebook. Chris is better off dead than with this selfish bitch.
I used to work in a funeral home. Sometimes men have massive erections due to rigor mortis. I lasted two weeks before temptation got the best of me. The dilemma is whether to suck it, sit on it, or shit on it. Sometimes it’s the trifecta.
That’s right Goblox, she clearly spent no time with his family at all because we all know updating your Facebook status takes all day. Christ. I agree this is a little personal for a Facebook status update, but it doesn’t make her a selfish bitch.
I think it’s perfectly obvious that he’s dead, or at least totally out of her life in some way. The fact that there’s no more wedding is pretty obvious. Maybe this was her way of informing family and friends so that they wouldn’t make her feel worse asking about her wedding. It’s pretty hard to just come out and say “My fiancé is dead, you can get a refund on the gifts and don’t bother buying a new outfit”. A friend of mine recently lost her brother suddenly and actually the support she got from people on facebook helped at least a little.
Does she really have to come right out and say he is dead? It is obvious that he is.
The person response is lame, but this isn’t really funny.. It is just sad.. I don’t really think it should be on lamebook.. I like to get a laugh out of the things on here, but after reading this one I just feel bad for the girl..
The girl that commented on her status was just plain rude. It’s pretty obvious that chris was dead or at least out of her life when Jessica says “I still can’t get over the fact that you are gone” in the second sentence.
If anyone doesn’t comprehend that at the very least something is seriously wrong between Jessica and Chris from that post, then it is highly probable that they are legally mentally retarded. I bet Kaitlyn still has to use safety scissors.
I hate Kaitlyn’s attitude of entitlement, and worse, her stupidity. From Jessica’s post, Chris is clearly out of her life (whether it’s by exiting the relationship or exiting the living world), and the first thing that Kaitlyn interprets is, “OMG! A weddinggggg! I better get inviiiiited so I can dress up and get shitfaced on someone else’s dime!”
So she was spending all night on facebook. First post 9:18, second post 10:14. She probably had to get on Farmville and harvest some of Chris’ crops and get on Yoville and tickle Chris’ character….maybe tell it some jokes or something…
Chris was killed a few days ago riding his bike in Orlando. He son turned 2 the day after Chris died. This is a tragic story. He traveled alot (he was a pro photographer) and they kept in touch on FB as well as other sources. It isn’t strange to post a message to someone you love that is gone if you have posted a million messages that same way while alive.
Not sure how Kaitlyn missed the story – it was all over several people’s pages.
I think people sometimes find it helps the grieving process to write to their deceased loved one’s facebook, or send them emails or whatever – it’s like writing them a letter. You know they will never read it, but it helps to get it all out, and it keeps their memory alive a little longer.
As for ‘shouldn’t she be sorting out his funeral instead of updating facebook’, people do strange, irrational things when they re in shock, grieving and heartbroken. Don’t judge them for it.
If she felt better writing an update on his page, but Kaitlyn wasn’t trying to be stupid about it. Jessica could have called the girl or at least emailed her to give her the news instead of making her look like a jackass in front of everyone.
Though, “I still can’t get over the fact that you are gone” kind of says it all. I presumed he had died or had at least left her.
Still, Kaitlyn may have skim read it – it was pretty lengthy – and not gotten the jist. Poor her for finding out that way (I’m presuming she knew him since she said “I love you guys”).
That’s why I find posting stuff like that on a status (so early) inappropriate. Sometimes the news takes a while to filter through to people who should find out in a more private/personal manner. News of death is pretty extreme and finding out a public forum… not good (voice of experience speaking).
1st cry – What a beautiful text. Seriously, it’s amazingly beautiful.
2nd cry – Chris died… poor girl, if I were there, I’d hold her in my arms, giving her comfort. Things like this is terrible, I hope the girl will be ok in time.
only laugh – what a freakin dork that invite-me-to-the-wedding shithead was. “You WERE and are still my life and my everything!” Come on, someone had better learn to read the whole text before commenting next time…
I know people do strange things when they’re grieving, but I still don’t agree with this sort of thing. I found out that a girl I went to school with had died by getting a Facebook event to her funeral – no joke (although I thought it was initially).
jessica says “i can’t believe your gone”. Kaitlyn migh’ve inferred something was up…no? total moron. and if you’re fiance dies why are you posting about it on facebook the day after. have some common sense. i agree has to be a fake or these to people are the biggest morons…
You said you weren’t sure how Kaitlyn missed the story of his death because it was on various people’s pages. That’s a little wrong – finding out from facebook about the death of someone you know is more than a bit wrong.
How is it more than a bit wrong? how is it wrong at all? You know someone, but not enough to see or speak to them everyday, so basically everyone except the people you live with and maybe a very small amount of others, you get home, sign on facebook and find something like that with people’s status updates who have found out that day, through other means or through facebook, what have you done wrong?
personal experience – a close friend died, and another close friend was about to call when I’d finished work to me to tell me properly, when I spotted someone’s status, them having been told shortly before. It’s a shit way to find out stuff like that. Maybe a week or so after once people find out, but not so soon.
you people really need to leave the house.i mean,i enjoy reading something that makes me laugh once and a while.But come on,all you people who comment daily on this stuff…trying to make up for something?…or no one writes to you on your own Facebooks =p
your all going to Hell as Virgins with idiotic thinking and retarded rationalization on someones misery or Facebook status(because we are spontaneous race of Human Beings full of faults).The next generation sold there souls for a XBOX360 or iPhone and probably call there own mothers CUNTS.
So you are telling me that if your loved one dropped dead tomorrow, you’d take the time to update your Facebook status as part of your daily chores. You ever heard of disconnecting from the web for a while?
Wow, I wouldn’t be able to hold it together enough at all to post anything. I seriously would not be able to sit at the computer, eat, sleep, breathe or anything the day after my fiance died (which is NOT gonna happen *cross fingers, touch something wooden, etc*)
That is tragic. She muct be numb. (and I mean ‘numb’ in the dull ache, tears rolling down your face, not in hysterics yet, way.)
This isn’t lame at all. Fail on Kaitlyn, maybe a *little*. But this is mostly just really sad. I feel so sorry for Jessica. This is horribly tragic, and I can only send as many good thoughts and prayers her way as possible. That has got to be incredibly hard to make it through. :’(
Everyone gets so analytical about these people, decoding them as if we all knew them…perhaps some do. The only mistake is Kaitlyn typing in all caps but I guess she was just really excitied about the wedding….
@Goblox – when my auntie died earlier this year her 3 children all updated their FB status with things like this. Their mum was found dead at 7am, FB was updated by 9am. It’s a depressing state of affairs
I think it’s really easy to misunderstand or criticize these situations when you’re not the one in that position.
My mom died in July after a very long battle with cancer. I took 5 minutes the morning after she died to post it on my Facebook and so did my brother. We did it because many of our friends live far away and had been following our mom’s struggle through FB. These were people who had supported us, consoled us and done everything they could long distance. Many were friends of mine from high school who had known my mother for years. We wanted them to know but simply did not have time to message or call everyone of those people. My brother and I both simply posted this, “For those who have been supporting us during our mother’s illness we wanted to let you know that she passed away at 6am this morning. We love you mom.” Many sent messages asking us to please list the time/location of the funeral or the name of the funeral home so they could send flowers.
FB can be a communication tool and a way to keep in touch with people in a genuine manner.
Rachel – What you posted makes sense and why you posted it makes sense, in the case of my cousins it’s was badly spelled text talk when we hadn’t even informed the whole family – I’m also sorry for your loss
Kristina – isn’t saying “I still can’t believe you’ve gone” an expression of shock?
I can’t help but think that it would have been kinder if Jessica had deleted Kaitlyn’s comment and then sent her an email through FB
KB, I totally see your point. That’s why we waited until the day after. We wanted to make sure all of our family knew first since a lot of our cousins are friends on FB. Thanks for your condolences.
And I would hate to be notified of something like that in “text speak”. I thought really hard about how to say it. My brother, who is in high school asked me to write it because he wanted to make sure it was appropriate.
It could have been that he had proposed to her once, and she had refused, but still consided him to be a great love of her life, or at least a dear friend. That is how I had read it at first. Then she finds out that he has died, and is regretful for the loss. Is this so hard to believe?
WTF? Kaitlyn reads, “I wish I could hear your voice again asking me to marry you”, and the only bells that go off in her head are wedding bells? I can’t understand misinterpretation on such a grand scale. Every sentence of this status screams “HE HAS DIED”.
This is screwed up. Wouldn’t you think to tell your friends (and the person who posted the comment obviously knows them both fairly well), rather than updating your facebook status and letting people find out that way?
The thing is, if my would-be fiance was killed YESTERDAY I wouldn’t be bothering to answer Facebook replies about it. Isn’t she in a state of grief (and probably shock)? I’m sorry, but hanging out on Facebook, and having the possibility of awkward exchanges like this, is just really strange to me.
@Pink Actually my first thought was that it sounded like something one of my friends would’ve posted. Her husband came home from Iraq for a week or two, they got married, then he went back. It sounds like she’s talking about a deployed soldier, not a dead guy.
when my friends dad died she posted it on facebook from her phone…. she spent all her time with her family though. there was nothing wrong with it. she said it was easier then telling people about it or having other people “hear things”.
I completely understand why she wrote it on facebook. When a friend of mine passed, his facebook was flooded with people saying how much they missed him, and every now and then people still leave messages for him saying they miss him or how something reminded them of him. Regardless of whether the deceased is going to see it or not, it’s a way of reaching out and connecting with them again. Poor girl.
i understand far to well my wife died and one of the first things i did when i got to a computer and was not near the hospital was log into facebook to let people know she died. it wasnt a sympathy thing or anything.
I don’t know how many of you have actually experienced the death of a loved one, but once that person is gone, there’s really not much to *do*. My mom passed away about 10 years ago, and after the initial hustle and bustle of activity, it’s a lot of sitting around and waiting. We made phone calls to friends and family, and I notified a few people by e-mail and other means of electronic communication. Then we sat around and cried a lot and tried to make sense of what had happened.
I highly doubt Jessica was neglecting anyone or anything by taking the time to make a status update. That takes less than 5 minutes. I’m sure the people around her were able to cope.