It’s nice to see that the self-appointed “THIS IS HOW YOU USE THE FACEBOOKS YOU HALF-WHITTED A-HOLE MFer PIECE OF SH!T” types can tell anyone through belittling that they MUST use facebook a certain way. Either that or they incur the wrath of some anonymous rube. (Beware of anyone that uses the concept immaturity as a putdown in conversation…)
It’s also a nice to realize that once you develop a life outside of your parents, you don’t need to impress them anymore or show them the somewhat “private” life you have on the internet. Dammit to hell Facebook was better when you didn’t have every Tom/Dick/Harry/and Mary on it from Midwest-retard ville (or wherever) and it was just made up of Tom/Dick/Harry/and Mary from 13th Grade University instead.
i think this is wrong! I am sure there are plenty of people in the world who would appreciate having a father, especially on facebook. Don’t be so heartless and accept the old man as a friend. He’s a doctor (from the look of the picture) so it is not like he is going to be breathing down your neck every waking moment on fb.
Unless you have a major problem with your folks, fair enough. But if you’re just mad at them because of hormones or some other dismal reason then you need to grow up. Be empathetic. Put yourself in their shoes and ask “how would i feel if my son/daughter after X years of loving, caring, nurturing (etc) started hating me for no reason”? If you’re not completely fucked up you should be able to imagine how these poor parents feel.
Good point. There are, however, many persons of 28 or older whose mental age is still around 15 years old. People who, in 20 or 30 years time when their own kids have grown up, will regret how they treated their own household family back in the days of social networking. They’ll discover that karma is such a bitch.
Then again, as you said, there are some 15 year olds with enough life experience to understand that.
the problem is that you all are assuming Dad is an all around swell guy. While I am much the same way, whatever I do on Facebook is the way I act around everyone I know,including family. And I do have family members on my page. I do have friends who will not add certain family members because all they do is cause drama where there is none. If they see pictures of something they were not privy to, they make outrageously off color remarks, they guilt you to death, it is just a big heap of drama.
I do agree facebook is public, but it should also be fun. I can understand if someone has to deal with this in person would not want to deal with it on a website meant to be light and fun, not a chore or feeling you have to choose your actions and words.
Then again, the son could be just a complete prick.
It is so bizarre that some people who have posted above have jumped to conclusions about the guy who posted this, without knowing a single thing about him, about his relationship with his father, or about his use of facebook. Unwillingness to add somebody as a friend is not necessarily immature or unfair. As Lamebook shows (on a daily basis), many disasters on facebook arise from people being befriended with family members.
My teenage son refused to friend me for a year and then he chgd his mind by setting ground rules, which I have (mostly) abided by. Having a kid away at college in the age of FB is soooooo much more pleasant when you can “see” what’s going on w/their (zillions of) pics and get to “meet” their friends that you otherwise would not.
Now I “know” him as his peers do…that’s very cool. And his female friends LOVED when I posted some funny childhood pics of him. Some of his friends found my occasional posts so witty, that THEY friended me…and think I’m a cool mom.
Maybe Dr. No wouldn’t be that way…and #1 son knows his dad better than we do…
“what’s going on w/their (zillions of) pics and get to “meet” their friends that you otherwise would not.
Now I “know” him as his peers do…that’s very cool. And his female friends LOVED when I posted some funny childhood pics of him. Some of his friends found my occasional posts so witty, that THEY friended me…and think I’m a cool mom.”
I did refuse my mother-in-law’s friend request, because she already doesn’t “get” me, and her reading my FB wouldn’t help. But I have coworkers (including my boss) as friends, and would totally have my parents as friends if they were on FB.
Maybe he doesn’t want to add him, because he is NOT his dad, but the creepy pediatrician he once had, who is stalking him (and apparently 20 of his friends), and insists they call him “dad,” and this is just evidence.
Or, it is his dad, he doesn’t want to add him, and he thought it was funny to show everyone that his dad is lame enough to beg for “friendship” on a social networking site.
Maybe he doesn’t want to add him because it’s fucking nuts to have your parents as your FB friends, especially with the ridiculous information people are flooding the public with these days. Please see: Lamebook.com